Work life balance seems to be one of those things everyone is always searching for but no one really has, ok except for Markus Frind. There are never enough hours in my day to do everything I want or need to.
Today I read a great post from Kenny Moore, who got me hooked with a great first line:
Work-Life balance is, at best, a fabrication. At worst, a cruel hoax.
Even though I personally don’t agree with some of the points but I do agree with one of his main points, you can’t have it all and expect work life balance, instead you will have stress.
- Want a high-flying business career? Go for it.
- Might you desire to get married, raise a family and live in conjugal bliss? Good for you.
- Maybe youâ€™d prefer to use your artistic talents and create a world of new possibilities? God bless.
- Perhaps youâ€™d want to be independent and care free? Iâ€™m envious.
But if you expect to have it all, get ready to play center stage in your own exciting Greek Tragedy.
Another interesting point that really resonated with me was around making choices and requiring a focus on â€œbeingâ€ rather than â€œdoing.â€
A final though Kenny mentions â€œThe Good Samaritan Experimentâ€ from Princeton Theological Seminary, where even “men of the cloth” were not a good Samaritan when they were in a rush.
In the Princeton experiment, when the seminarians had their homily prepared, they were asked to walk to another part of the campus and deliver their sermon to waiting students. Half were told to hurry, because they were running late. The others were informed there was no rush, they had plenty of time.
As they journeyed across campus, the experimenters arranged to have an actor slumped as a â€œvictimâ€ strategically positioned along their route so that the seminarians were forced to step over or around the man.
So, who stopped to help â€¦ and who didnâ€™t? They were all budding â€œmen of the clothâ€ on their way to deliver a sermon on just such a situation.
What the experiment revealed was that those who were in a hurry passed the â€œvictimâ€ by. Those with time to spare, stopped and helped. It seems altruism and our commitment to our fellow man is less connected to our religious beliefs and more closely aligned with having some free time.